"He left me for someone else but says he still loves me." There are so many things wrong with that statement. If you're the woman saying it, you already know that. When your boyfriend dumps you it's already a difficult experience. If you still love him and you then find out that his motivation for wanting out was another woman you can add anger and confusion to the list of emotions you're feeling. It's challenging to listen to him telling you he still cares for you when he's clearly moved on with someone else. If you love him you're faced with a big decision. Do you try and forget about him and leave him to his new girl or do you work on getting him back with you?
It's highly likely that if your boyfriend left you for someone else yet he still claims to love you, he's looking at you as a backup. Men who say this tend to do it once they realize their new relationship can't measure up to the old one. They want to hold onto their ex girlfriend and essentially keep her waiting in the wings so when things go sour with the new girlfriend, the old one will be sitting patiently waiting. You do not want to put yourself in that position with any man.
Even if you still desperately love him and wish he could be yours right now, don't allow him to treat you in this way. If he does contact you often to say that he loves you, stop taking those calls. Let it go to voicemail. If he's sending you text messages or emails expressing those same sentiments, don't address it, other than to write him back and wish him well. If you don't ignore his proclamations of undying love and devotion to you, you're going to end up having an affair with him.
If he's still with her and just as persistent with telling you that he still cares for you, tell him that you want to be respectful of his new relationship so you'd rather he kept those feelings to himself. Hopefully you can say this to him in person because the look on his face will be priceless. He'll be shocked that you're not going to keep waiting for him to leave her.
Many men play this type of game because it feeds into their ego. He probably does have very strong feelings for you still but if they were as deep and overwhelming as he claims, he would have left his current girlfriend to be with you again. If you want him back, allow that relationship to run its course. You don't want to become a third party to it. If you do and you two do eventually end up back together, his current girlfriend will always be a factor, even long after she's walked out of his life.
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Friday, September 24, 2010
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